Lies

Category: Getting to Know You

Post 1 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 06-Dec-2008 15:05:35

In your opinion, how can you tell that someone is not telling the truth? I'm writing a paper for a psychology class, and I have to come up with at least five or more reasons to tell if someone is being dishonest. Don't be too general with relationships. You can also use examples related to family, friends, and co workers. Thanks a lot.

Post 2 by alison (my ISP would be out of business if it wasn't for this haven I live at) on Saturday, 06-Dec-2008 17:28:42

I can usually tell by the tone in their voice, if this helps any. There's sort of a too-truthful tone that gives away that they're not being honest. Then other times, there's a hesitant tone you can catch, too. My friends could never lie to me because I could always tell by the tone in their voice (obviously none of them were very good acters).

I can't really give you any other ways. I'm totally blind, so eye contact and/or stance never played a part for me.

Alison

Post 3 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Saturday, 06-Dec-2008 19:25:42

tone of voice, facial expression, speech rhythm, body language, hesitency in responce, content of responce, fidgting, glancing away.

hope that helps

Post 4 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 06-Dec-2008 19:54:03

Changing the topic, suspicious behaviors, unsupported reasons, and lots of excuses to run away from the situation.

Post 5 by Emerald-Hourglass (Account disabled) on Saturday, 06-Dec-2008 20:39:22

in speech we learned if you look to the left when your telling something means your lying.

Post 6 by alison (my ISP would be out of business if it wasn't for this haven I live at) on Saturday, 06-Dec-2008 21:18:30

That's weird, why is that?

Post 7 by HotPerro (I live and breathe the board) on Sunday, 07-Dec-2008 2:14:49

I use all the above mentioned ways to distinguish if someone is lying to me. But I also use prior knowledge of the person, and the context of the situation.

Post 8 by Morgan_Lynn (Account disabled) on Sunday, 07-Dec-2008 4:28:55

I agree with Hot-Perrow

Once my friend gotahold of one of my cards, and she erased everything on it...So when I questioned her about it, she sed "Oh, I didin't know that was yours dude." Then I took a look and astablished what she has sed, and came up with the conclusion that she was lieing because

List of 2 items:
•1: Mine was he only one in the room.
•2: It had well given evidence that it was mine, my name was in a lot of the files.
List end.

So, yes, another way you can tell is if you know the persons history, espeshally if they are prone to lieing.

Luv ♥
Morgan

Post 9 by SingerOfSongs (Heresy and apostasy is how progress is made.) on Sunday, 07-Dec-2008 4:30:38

I use what people above have said, but sometimes I can just tell. Not sure anything they did gave it away, just can.

Post 10 by Morgan_Lynn (Account disabled) on Sunday, 07-Dec-2008 19:42:29

Very true singerOfSongs, sometimes you just know..

Luv ♥
Morgan

Post 11 by CrazedMidget (Sweet fantacy's really do come in small packages!) on Sunday, 07-Dec-2008 20:25:43

It depends who the person is, cause agreed with morgan, u can just tell sometimes. It depends how they act

Post 12 by roller (Generic Zoner) on Sunday, 07-Dec-2008 22:44:28

Those are good suggestions, and another thing. If you ask the person and they denny it, like the previous poster said. You can just tell. Put yourself in the person's shoes and it will help you figure out why they lied or if they are lying.

Post 13 by cumbiambera2005 (i just keep on posting!) on Monday, 08-Dec-2008 3:59:59

I use tone of voice, hesitance, and context of situations to determine if someone's lying. (I've actually caught my ex cheating that way) lol! But yeah, all of those things make scense. Also I am totally blind, but if I am face to face with someone and I ask them a question and they look away from me, I can tell when they are not looknig straight at me, and that helps me to know something isn't quite right. Also if someone is laughing, a lot of times that means they are lying. Or also stuttering. So those are ways I can tell.

Post 14 by Thunderstorm (HotIndian!) on Monday, 08-Dec-2008 4:29:05

I'm not gona trust FallenMoonlight with this regard. since she herself told that she got lying problem in the zone once, you know.

And as per me, I won't trust anyone soon. and I'll find with their way of speech of course. their wordings won't be stable. this time they may say one thing and by the next meet they may say something different for the same issue, you know.

So, be cautious. don't trust me. ok?

Raaj

Post 15 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Tuesday, 02-Jun-2009 20:12:35

Hesitation
Trying to find scapegoats (love them)
Indirectness when you have to say, "but you didn't answer my question, I didn't ask you so and so."
Lavish in praises or charm
Silence
I know some or all has been mentioned, but... here you are.